anger management problems where do the kids hide

Anger management problems in the home means an unhealthy environment for the entire family. The kids though are often the ones that are the most devastated by these outbursts and yet are the ones where the damage goes the most unnoticed.
The adults within the family of the hot head will often retaliate and make their feelings known to the angered individual. This many times leads to both parties then becoming in an angered state and the kids seem to get caught in the crossfire.
The unfortunate part with the kids is they are not in a position to express their feelings. There is no doubt that the majority of kids caught in this position are experiencing fear. They are most unlikely to speak up because of this fear, and this can carry over far beyond the angry outburst.
All too often people with anger management problems have no idea the damage that is being created at the time with these youngsters. In fact its unlikely that they notice that the kids even get up and leave the vicinity of where the outburst is taking place.
Then when everything has settled down once again no thought is given to as where did the kids disappear to. Young ones may retreat to their rooms to hide from the sting and fear of the anger, or perhaps the backyard.
Adolescents make take to the street for reprieve, and then the setting for an unhealthy environment is now becoming a risk. Kids hanging out on the street just to avoid the atmosphere at home is not a good scenario.
The individual with the anger management problems needs to take a close look at what is happening around them. It is true and understandable that the anger management issues may be out of the control of the person who suffers with angry outbursts.
What is not out of that person’s control though is to feel empathy towards the kids, and to put themselves in the kid’s shoes. Think of how distressing is must be for them to see a parent who they rely on to be out of control. Yet they know that if that were them, that definite actions to correct the matter would be taken.
These angry outbursts are also painting the picture to these kids that this may be acceptable behavior. It shouldn’t be shocking to a parent to soon see a youngster mimicking their angry outburst actions.
The bottom line is kids shouldn’t have to be hiding out in their rooms, backyards or the streets to avoid an angry atmosphere created by anger management problems. There is no necessity for this when there is so much help and resources available to the individual with the anger management issues.